Pleasure – the sound of this word is so satisfying. It is one of the best feelings in the world. It puts you in a trance of heavenly escapism. No feeling could amount to the fulfilment it bestows upon. Yet still in India and certain traditional countries, talking about it is a shameful offence. Brought up in the land of Kamasutra, the word ‘Sex’ and anything related to it is frowned upon. It’s funny how being the second most populous country in the world and soon conquering to be the first most populous country by overtaking China in 2030, we have been hypocrites about sex. As a liberal, I grew up open-minded and progressive in my views about ‘Masturbation’, ‘Sex’ and ‘Pleasure’. I experienced my first clitoral orgasm at 11 after I got my first menstrual cycle. I believe that’s when my sexual organs started to activate, and I started exploring them. I started researching about sex and saw a few videos which started to arouse my need for sexual intimacy. It was beautiful, satisfying this temporary feeling for my body just like food satisfies hunger and peace satisfies the soul. Pleasure is meant to be explored and experienced in every dimension. It is healthy for physical, mental and emotional well-being. Don’t be afraid to experiment with your body. Your body is created for your pleasure and every inch of it must be experienced.
Having graduated from Mount Carmel College with a major in Psychology, my teachers weren’t ashamed to talk about sex and pleasure in all their classes. I had a teacher that was too bold to speak about her own sex life with her husband. Being a shy girl back in college, I had my head down in all her classes as I was too shy and uncomfortable when she spoke about sex. Gradually, with time, I was convinced through her teachings that ‘Sex’ itself is not wrong and is worth experiencing. She prepared us for the first-time pain during sex and how we could heal the pain with proper lubrication. She spoke about the first time a boy gets an erection when he sees a girl and how a girl gets wet when she is stimulated by something sexual.
It took me the first 25 years of my life to get fully ready to lose my virginity. Before 25, I was too afraid that anything could possibly go wrong like an unwanted pregnancy or an STD. After getting sexually frustrated with just masturbation, I wanted to experience ‘Sex’. I hopped onto Tinder and went on my first date with my match. I spoke to my match about how I waited 25 years to finally experience a sexual desire with another person. Since it was my first time, he wanted to be gentle with me.
He started by kissing me softly on my lips and his hands slowly sliding down from my neck to my breast. I could feel my heart racing faster. I was craving every inch of a male’s touch on my body. I always imagined what it would feel like, shivers sending down my spine, breath getting heavier, lips quivering, soft moans, goosebumps. I could feel the whole galaxy in my body, it was exploding with pleasure. To make it romantic, he played some music in the background that synced with the moment. My body wanted more and more of the pleasure.
When it was time for his hands to reach my most pleasurable organ – my clitoris – my whole body grew numb. My hands held onto the sheets tighter, and I bit my lower lip. I closed my eyes. I was waiting for this moment all my life and it felt beautiful to finally experience it. His fingers went in circular motions, and I moaned louder, I could feel his smile in between my legs. I wanted him to dominate me badly at that moment. He then slowly starts kissing my thighs and licking them all way to my vagina. He rolls his tongue inside my clit, and I moan his name. His hands grab my boobs and squeeze them hard. He pushes his head deeper and I close my eyes as I escape into heavenly pleasure.
